The art of empathy

Being a parent is tough. I think what we sometimes forget is that every child is different and that we are all doing this for the first time. I will confess that there are times when I wonder if we are doing the right thing, if we are nurturing our boys in the right way that suits their growth. And the scary thing is, we will not know until many, many years later, when they are adults and off into the world on their own.

Recently, we had a string of incidents with A. Last week was his birthday and we made a last-minute decision to join our friends for a holiday at Legoland. It was, as the song goes, AWESOME! We had SO. MUCH. FUN. And the boys were thrilled to be able to play and dance and sing and (eeps) yell together. The two older ones, A and David, did not want to go home and frankly, I don’t blame them.

Come Monday, though, we were braced for the storm. A did not want to go back to school.

Guest Blog: #SG50ShadesofGrey (on Parenting)

Note: The following is written by Dannie Cho, husband to one Tan Yi Lin. Also, do not read it at work with your boss hovering behind you.

Recently, my best friend shared a link on Facebook, and encouraged “inputs from his most articulate bestie”. (Seriously, read the link first before reading the rest of this post!) It’s an article that shared Singaporeans’ humourous side, by making everyday situations sound erotic. So, in celebration of our nation’s 50th year, and of our very lucky baby-making efforts, here are some of the key milestones we went through on our parenthood journey – erotica style!

Feeling meh

Now that I have been back at work for more than a month – and school has started – I feel less like a super mum and more like a headless chook.

It’s really crazy how each and every single day flies by just like that. Every morning is a mad rush to go go go, especially on the days when we have to drop off the two boys at two different locations. I’m ever so grateful to my mother, then, for offering to come over to my place on the days that she watches Zac! Being able to leave home with just one kid and dropping him at the school located on campus has helped to cut down so much of the commuting time. Plus, I no longer have to battle maddening peak hour traffic to get us home safely! (You don’t want to be in my car when I am pissed off with traffic after a hard day’s work.)

At work, additional responsibilities mean that I’m stretched in every other way. I’m also pumping and it’s been tough trying to keep up to the schedule. Between lessons and preparation and meetings, I sometimes hardly have time to eat. BOO.

Once 6 o’clock hits, it’s another round of crazy rushing to pick up the boys. By this time, Aidan is usually STARVING and if we don’t get food into his system quickly enough, everything turns into a minefield. This means that I will have to spend additional time coaxing him out of his school uniform and getting him to eat his dinner, leaving Zac to entertain himself in the bouncer. When both boys are finally asleep, it’s 930pm and I finally get to drag my exhausted self into the shower.

Mama Learns The Cello


Apologies for the long hiatus from Bubsicles. It’s been an especially hectic period with things exploding at work, sick family members, Claire starting school and … *drumroll*…. cello lessons for me!

Yes, I’m picking up the cello, at the ripe old age of 35 years. It’s a major paradigm shift for the brain, I tell ‘ya. All of the sudden, my mind and body need to communicate with each other outside of their routine conversations to execute the positions and movements needed for cello-playing.

Why am I doing this?


The Great Outdoors: Bishan-Ang Mo Kio Park

The Great Outdoors: Bishan-Ang Mo Kio Park

One of our favourite outdoor weekend spots is Bishan-Ang Mo Kio Park.

Okay, to be exact, we’ve only been to the water playground at the Pond Gardens (formerly known as Bishan Park 1). Because exploring all 62 hectares of the park – one of the largest in Singapore – with two small kids is QUITE. A. FEAT.

The playground is designed as a series of shallow water channels criss-crossing the play area, reminiscent of a natural river plain. Children can manoeuvre the sluice gates within each channel to control the flow of water. Floating fallen leaves or paper boats down the channels makes for a good lesson in the ebb and flow movements of streams and rivers. Older children may enjoy arranging the movable “rocks” in different positions to experiment with how various permutations affect the flow of water.

Nonetheless, if you’re only a year-old tyke like Claire, you can still find amazement in sitting and gawking at leaves gliding swiftly on their watery journey downstream.




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